Reclaiming Healing
HEAL THYSELF!
One must be HEALED to move forward!
If you don’t HEAL, you’ll stay stuck in the past…FOREVERRRRRRRR!!!
Ugh! 🙄
Everyone’s talking about HEALING — childhood trauma, relationship trauma, ANCESTRAL trauma, fucking PAST LIFE trauma! “I’m healing my ancestral money wounds for my grandmother who couldn’t get out of poverty,” and such.
No shade to any actual healing. Truly. That last one is something that someone I deeply respect said to me recently. And it’s valuable. BUT, like, what the fuck does healing even mean? And how does one HEAL?
This is the shit that’s always missing from the big, bold statements that claim to have all the magic answers. The meaning. The how. 🙄 Clearly, I’m feeling very eye-rolley today. 😂 I’m just SO sick of bullshit marketing that may or may not have substance to back itself up.
Here’s what I’ve learned over the course of the past MANY years of working with various healing modalities and hiring a plethora of healing practitioners:
It all works. It won’t all work for YOU.
Healing is not linear. You’ll zig, and you’ll zag. You’ll spiral. And you’ll feel completely lost at times. That doesn’t mean you’ve somehow unhealed whatever wound or trauma you’re working through.
Healing is not one-and-done. There is no quick fix. It’s deep exploration and an ongoing process.
You do not have to be HEALED in order to move forward — in your life, in your relationships, in your business, in your career, or in whatever else you’re trying to move forward in. Which is excellent news! Because we’d be super fucked due to #3 if forward motion required complete healing.
It’s a lonely and isolating process. Which means community is absolutely essential. You need support around you. That can look like many things. But just because healing your shit is an inside job that can only be done on your own doesn’t mean it’s best to go it alone. Surround yourself with support — therapist, coach, energy worker, friends, body worker, any combination of that and whatever else you find helpful.
With all of the talk about HEALING these days, though, let’s also acknowledge that there are many ways to say the same thing.
Spiritual journeying, personal development, personal growth, self-love, self-compassion, compassion (in general), radical compassion, self-acceptance, acceptance (in general), radical acceptance, neutrality…I could go on.
These words are everywhere. And it’s all just different language to say the same thing.
This applies to so many aspects of our culture — our global culture. Whether scientific, spiritual, or philosophical, we’re all using different language to try to get to the same place of understanding what it means to be human in this time.
How we relate to our surroundings, how we relate to one another, and how we relate to ourselves.
And it’s the “how we relate to ourselves” bit that the vocab list above relates to. It’s what HEALING relates to.
Depending on the language that resonates most with you, you’ll seek out different practitioners, different thought leaders, and different methodologies with different tools.
But it’s all designed to lead you back to yourself for inner expansion. And in most cases, that forms the foundation for outward expansion. Because we can only hold for others what we’re willing to hold for ourselves.
This is not to say that cult leaders with ulterior motives don’t exist. Of course they do. But, like, don’t join a cult. Please. You deserve to trust yourself over any kind of leader/guru/expert. And if you don’t trust yourself, I’d love to help you develop that. Seriously. I want you to trust yourself over even me. Please and thank you.
But, again, it’s the “how” that's always missing.
How does one develop self-compassion, self-love, self-trust, journey inward, and heal oneself?
Here’s why that “how” is what’s always missing: there’s no universal answer. Every practitioner has a different methodology and set of tools. And even within that practitioner’s clientele, each person’s experience is vastly different.
It’s unique. It’s personal.
And often, it’s so gradual and subtle that you don’t even know “healing” or “growth” has occurred until you’re a bit further down the road and can look back with some perspective to see how far you’ve come.
So your own “how” may be difficult to define and put into words.
What pieces ARE pretty universal for the “how”?
Introspection.
Curiosity.
Compassion.
When we get introspective, sometimes that can seem a little like navel-gazing or selfishness. And we are socialized wildly against both. But introspection isn’t about self-aggrandizement or shutting everyone out. It’s about getting to know yourself, your core values and beliefs, and what’s true for you.
Curiosity layered into that introspection allows us to identify our needs, desires, and wounds objectively. So that we can address them fully, tend to ourselves, and flourish in deep connection.
And compassion? That’s the ultimate level-up. The objectivity available within curiosity paves the way toward compassion. Because it doesn’t leave room for judgment. And judgment is what holds us back from growth, healing, and connection.
When we judge ourselves for our past behaviors and decisions, we can’t heal what led to them. So we end up repeating the same patterns, making them more and more habituated. Often to the point where we genuinely believe that’s just who we ARE. Which just leads to more judgment, solidifying a cycle of perpetuation.
But through curiosity and compassion, we can examine the patterns and break the cycles. We can sift through what feels like muck and truly dust off, shedding the layers that have held us back, to move forward into the lives we choose rather than those we’re simply defaulting to via unconscious repetition.
The true magic, though? That comes in not trying to do all of this on your own. Yes, it’s inner work. But you can only see so much from the inside. Working with someone trained to hold a mirror up to you, allowing you to see from the outside, grants you exponential insight, allowing you to expand upon your own inner wisdom that much further.
And a community to support you through your journey? That only amplifies your progress.
These are the things I’d like to offer you inside of Project Reclamation. You get tools to use for your own introspection, to cultivate both curiosity and compassion — or what I call “compassionate curiosity”. You get guidance from master-certified coaches trained in a variety of modalities who will hold your mirror firmly and softly. And you get a community to provide you a safe place to land when you need it and celebration of every step along the way.
Join us. Reclaim growth. Reclaim healing. Reclaim you. For you. KeliLynJewel.com/project-reclamation
