Reclaiming Self-Care

What are you not saying?

That deep, inner truth that you’ve known for a while but you’ve been afraid to admit: What is it?

Are you even being honest with yourself about it?

We’re socialized to hold ourselves back, to keep the peace, and to put others’ needs ahead of our own. And we’re told that doing so makes us “good.”

But putting yourself aside doesn’t make you “good.” All it does is make you exhausted. And likely resentful.

So whatever came to mind in response to those questions, get clear on it. Do some stream-of-consciousness writing on the answers and why you’ve been holding back — what you’re afraid of happening if you speak up. (I call this a chronicle, by the way. By writing out your thoughts without editing them, you’re tapping into your own ancient wisdom held deep within, below your socialized narratives.)

Then ask yourself how likely that thing you fear is to happen. And if it did happen, what you’d do next.

That “what happens next” bit is crucial to moving through and past the fear. Because our brains LOVE to drop us in the big, scary moment and just leave us there, which essentially just creates paralysis.

But by asking what happens next and truly answering it for yourself, you’ll tap into planning mode rather than fear mode and prove to yourself that you’ll be able to survive whatever it is you’re afraid of. You’ll be safe.

This is the kind of shit we work on inside Project Reclamation. I know it can be extremely challenging to do on your own. It’s also extremely powerful work. So, if you’re not a member of our club yet, stop wasting your time (and your truth) and get in here!