It’s Friday! Let’s Fuck Shit Up Together!
Happy Friday, lovely! It’s time to fuck some shit up!
Twice a month, in accordance with the lunar cycles, we gather in circle here and in your inbox for a salaciously good time. We talk reclaiming what has always been ours via ritualized practices and hexing shitty politicians. For those of you who love to receive the self-care tips, the sex tips, and the business tips, those will be in separate posts in a revised format.
Why? Because I want to combine everything in my varied background to offer my highest and greatest good to you. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.
✨ SPELL
Because this newsletter is sent out in conjunction with the lunar cycles, this segment offers you a moon ritual. Prior to all the stuff listed above, I studied art history as a way to develop an understanding of world religions. Since childhood, I’ve been on a spiritual journey to develop my own relationship to the divine. In no way do I have any interest in telling you what to believe or not believe. That’s for you. It’s personal. And for me, it’s cyclical. My spiritual practices have changed my relationship to time in such a beautiful way that I want to offer you a bit of that shift here by recognizing the cycles of the moon in order to hand you an opportunity to incorporate cyclical time into your experience of life. I work with many spiritual mentors, and ritualized practices are incorporated into the foundation of Project Reclamation—our equity-centered membership community—as well as the Reclamation Weekend retreats I host. And when you joined this email list, you received a Reclamation ritual from me. Again, I don’t care what you believe in or don’t believe in. Paying attention to the moon will help repair your relationship with time, which capitalism has fucked up for all of us. If you’d like to dive deeper into esoteric spirituality, though, keep your eyes peeled on your inbox for some fun stuff I’ve got coming up. 😉
Across time and culture, the moon has often represented our inner world of emotional connection, spiritual journey, and relationship to self. Aligning myself with the cycles of the moon has offered me the added bonus of shifting my relationship with time. When we allow ourselves the space for rest and renewal, rather than keeping ourselves stuck in the constant hustle & grind mentality of late-stage capitalism, our perspectives on what’s influential, what’s valuable, and what’s worthy of our energy have space to become deeper and more personal.
This week, I’m offering you a full moon ritual to hand you a little piece of that.
This doesn’t have to take a long time. The idea is to be present with yourself and focused on your full experience during the ritual. Pay attention to the sensations you feel during the ritual and make note of them afterward. I’d love to hear about your experience if you’d like to share!
FULL MOON RITUAL
The full moon is an excellent time to release anything you’ve been holding onto. And this can mean one of two things! Either you’ve been clinging to something that isn’t serving you, and you’re releasing your grip, or you’ve been working toward creating something that you’re now ready to release into the world. Whichever option resonates most with you, that’s where to focus your energy for this ritual.
Supplies: paper, pen, candle, some sort of non-flammable receptacle (actual cauldron, metal, glass, or ceramic bowl or pot, fire pit outside, the base of a grill — you’re gonna burn some shit up so you want something to let it burn in that’s not going to cause any damage to anything)
Steps:
Take a few minutes and ground yourself, whatever that means to you – whether that’s a few deep breaths, listening to a guided meditation, washing your face, putting your feet in the grass, masturbating, or anything else. Then light your candle.
Write out what it is that you’d like to release. If this is something you’ve been clinging to that isn’t serving you, and you’re releasing your grip on it, fold the paper in half AWAY from your body. If it’s something you’ve been working on and are releasing into the world, fold the paper in half TOWARD your body.
Light the paper on fire and let it burn in your non-flammable receptacle.
BONUS: If you want to mix the burnt ashes with salt and/or offer them back to the earth by sprinkling them around outside or burying them under the moon, go for it!
The full moon in Taurus today invites us to explore our resources — especially those surrounding our finances and our bodies. It’s groundedness. It’s tangible reality. It’s what gets us to where we want to go.
And after last week’s US election results, we could all use a little grounding. A little strategy. A little focus on the HOW.
For me, that looks like evaluating my offers, meeting with retreat collaborators, creating my 2025 business calendar, and making doctor’s appointments. (I’m about to be as vaxxed as one can be. Tetanus, hepatitis, flu, covid, all of it. Whatever isn’t up to date is about to be. Because RFK being in charge of HHS? I’m not putting my health in his hands.) Then it looks like talking to my partner and getting paperwork drawn up for things like medical power of attorney, durable power of attorney, etc., to ensure that if same-sex marriage is overturned, we can still do things like hospital visits if needed. We’re not married, but I lived in that world with my ex-wife prior to same-sex marriage becoming the law of the land. Legal provisions were necessary. And they may become necessary once again.
What does it look like for YOU?
That’s my invitation for your consideration under this full moon.
🌕Evaluate your finances and/or evaluate your health. Use this as your journal prompt. Get all your thoughts out about one or both topics. Where are they now? And where do you want them to be?
🌕What is the FIRST STEP toward getting where you want to go? (Can be two first steps if you’re doing both money and health.)
🌕WHEN will you take that first step? (Seriously. Put it on your calendar. And if you want some accountability, post about it in the Project Reclamation group.)
And if a guided meditation is helpful for you, here’s the recording of the grounding session I did inside Project Reclamation last week. The first half is talking through post-election emotions. The guided segment starts about halfway through.
✊ HEX
Politics is a not-so-secret passion of mine. I used to run a couple of political organizations here in Kansas City and lobby at the state level in Missouri with Planned Parenthood. The 2016 election is what led me into coaching after I lost my mind and a therapist told me I had “excellent coping skills” because I was focusing all my time and energy on political volunteerism. And in this segment, we might get a little petty. But we’ll always be aiming to reclaim our power from the cis-heteronormative, puritanical, white supremacist patriarchy we currently live under in this hellscape of climate change and late-stage capitalism. Here, I’ll offer suggestions on candidates to donate to, people to follow, podcasts to subscribe to, and answer the question of WHO ARE WE HEXING? (Josh Hawley is always on that list.)
*sigh* I don’t know that I have the energy for hexes this week. Do you?
Let’s focus, instead, on caring for ourselves. Let’s focus on fortifying ourselves. Let’s focus on leaning into community support. Let’s focus on the things that will prepare us for long-term sustainability.
There will be plenty of opportunity for throwing hexes later.
For now, tend to yourself gently and lovingly. Tend to your community. And let them tend to you.
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That’s it for this week, lovely! I appreciate you offering me space in your day. And I look forward to seeing you fuck some shit up today! ❤️🔥
-xoxo-
Keli
P.S. I want to invite you to Project Reclamation, a private, equitable, self-coaching community, to explore the most expansive version of yourself. Inside, you’ll receive tools for nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and cognitive self-coaching. Plus, you’ll have access to Master Certified Coaches to receive written coaching as well as live coaching via group calls. And you’ll be able to join in on an integrated book club, as well as both virtual and in-person community celebrations.
Maybe life coaching has felt out of reach for you in the past, as it’s often relegated to those hoarding enough wealth to be bored. But self-discovery doesn’t actually come in Tiffany boxes, and it is my goal to make healing and growth accessible to everyone.
Inside this space, we’re committed to reclaiming our bodies, our time, our joy, and our lives from all the cultural conditioning that has left us feeling less than. And we’re doing it in a vibrant, supportive community that is truly open to everyone who shares these values. (Though cis-het white Christian men may struggle a bit.)
Registration is now open, so click the link to join. See you on the inside!
