It’s Friday! Let’s Fuck Shit Up Together!
Happy Friday, lovely! It’s time to fuck some shit up!
Twice a month, in accordance with the lunar cycles, we gather in circle here and in your inbox for a salaciously good time. We talk reclaiming what has always been ours via ritualized practices and hexing shitty politicians. For those of you who love to receive the self-care tips, the sex tips, and the business tips, those will be in separate posts in a revised format.
Why? Because I want to combine everything in my varied background to offer my highest and greatest good to you. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.
✨ SPELL
Because this newsletter is sent out in conjunction with the lunar cycles, this segment offers you a moon ritual. Prior to all the stuff listed above, I studied art history as a way to develop an understanding of world religions. Since childhood, I’ve been on a spiritual journey to develop my own relationship to the divine. In no way do I have any interest in telling you what to believe or not believe. That’s for you. It’s personal. And for me, it’s cyclical. My spiritual practices have changed my relationship to time in such a beautiful way that I want to offer you a bit of that shift here by recognizing the cycles of the moon in order to hand you an opportunity to incorporate cyclical time into your experience of life. I work with many spiritual mentors, and ritualized practices are incorporated into the foundation of Project Reclamation—our equity-centered membership community—as well as the Reclamation Weekend retreats I host. And when you joined this email list, you received a Reclamation ritual from me. Again, I don’t care what you believe in or don’t believe in. Paying attention to the moon will help repair your relationship with time, which capitalism has fucked up for all of us. If you’d like to dive deeper into esoteric spirituality, though, keep your eyes peeled on your inbox for some fun stuff I’ve got coming up. 😉
Across time and culture, the moon has often represented our inner world of emotional connection, spiritual journey, and relationship to self. Aligning myself with the cycles of the moon has offered me the added bonus of shifting my relationship with time. When we allow ourselves the space for rest and renewal, rather than keeping ourselves stuck in the constant hustle & grind mentality of late-stage capitalism, our perspectives on what’s influential, what’s valuable, and what’s worthy of our energy have space to become deeper and more personal.
This week, I’m offering you a full moon ritual to hand you a little piece of that.
This doesn’t have to take a long time. The idea is to be present with yourself and focused on your full experience during the ritual. Pay attention to the sensations you feel during the ritual and make note of them afterward. I’d love to hear about your experience if you’d like to share!
FULL MOON RITUAL
The full moon is an excellent time to release anything you’ve been holding onto. And this can mean one of two things! Either you’ve been clinging to something that isn’t serving you, and you’re releasing your grip, or you’ve been working toward creating something that you’re now ready to release into the world. Whichever option resonates most with you, that’s where to focus your energy for this ritual.
Supplies: paper, pen, candle, some sort of non-flammable receptacle (actual cauldron, metal, glass, or ceramic bowl or pot, fire pit outside, the base of a grill — you’re gonna burn some shit up so you want something to let it burn in that’s not going to cause any damage to anything)
Steps:
Take a few minutes and ground yourself, whatever that means to you – whether that’s a few deep breaths, listening to a guided meditation, washing your face, putting your feet in the grass, masturbating, or anything else. Then light your candle.
Write out what it is that you’d like to release. If this is something you’ve been clinging to that isn’t serving you, and you’re releasing your grip on it, fold the paper in half AWAY from your body. If it’s something you’ve been working on and are releasing into the world, fold the paper in half TOWARD your body.
Light the paper on fire and let it burn in your non-flammable receptacle.
BONUS: If you want to mix the burnt ashes with salt and/or offer them back to the earth by sprinkling them around outside or burying them under the moon, go for it!
We have a full moon in Gemini happening on Sunday. Jupiter and Venus are both involved, as they’re bright and shining through this full moon. Jupiter, as the planet of expansion, and Venus, as the planet of relationships and social cohesion, paired with the full moon in Gemini, the sign of paradox, gives us a lovely opportunity to reflect on what tension is at play in our lives and how we want to move forward with love to expand our lives and ourselves in an intentional way.
🌝What part of life is currently being illuminated with paradox or tension?
🌝How have you grown into the current version of yourself in this area of life? And what does the next, most expansive version of yourself look like?
🌝How can you focus on your values in this area in your life? And what would it look like to incorporate loving, supportive relationships or aligned community?
✊ HEX
Politics is a not-so-secret passion of mine. I used to run a couple of political organizations here in Kansas City and lobby at the state level in Missouri with Planned Parenthood. The 2016 election is what led me into coaching after I lost my mind and a therapist told me I had “excellent coping skills” because I was focusing all my time and energy on political volunteerism. And in this segment, we might get a little petty. But we’ll always be aiming to reclaim our power from the cis-heteronormative, puritanical, white supremacist patriarchy we currently live under in this hellscape of climate change and late-stage capitalism. Here, I’ll offer suggestions on candidates to donate to, people to follow, podcasts to subscribe to, and answer the question of WHO ARE WE HEXING? (Josh Hawley is always on that list.)
Listen. I’m not saying I’m pro-unaliving anyone. And I’m for sure not pro-pew pews (especially not those that are 3D printed and unregistered). But can we take a second to honor the unity that has come about over the vigilante?
I’m hopeful that this is a trigger for Americans to wake up to some of the socialization our culture has handed us, that we’ve adopted without consent…and without realizing we had another option. To come together and dismantle the systems we’ve built that just don’t fucking work for the vast majority of our society.
I was at the gym last week when one gym bro showed another gym bro a photo of his newly purchased AR and immediately felt disgust rise up within me.
We, as a country, have failed ourselves and one another in so many ways.
And the thing is, it doesn’t have to be like this. There are myriad examples of alternatives. From the social welfare and educational focus of the Nordic countries to the non-violent uprising that stopped a military takeover in South Korea to the extremely effective protests regularly occurring in France.
These things are all over the news all the time, and yet we don’t take heed. As a culture in the US, we insist on doing things in a way that’s detrimental to our mental, physical, social, and even spiritual health.
In order to change anything external, we must see that another way is possible. And it seems as though that vision has been blocked.
While there are certainly a number of factors at play that have gone into creating walls where we need windows, I want to direct our hexes this week not to the bricklayers, but to the bricks themselves.
We are all complicit in our own oppression in some way, and in our attempts to break free, we also become complicit in the oppression of others. Generally, it’s unintentional, often even unconscious.
So, rather than casting our hexes toward the vigilante or the billionaire, let us hex the systems that have allowed billionaires to exist and forced the need for vigilantism. Let us direct our energies toward dismantling our internalized oppression so that we may dismantle the external systems. Let us liberate ourselves — together, and by extension, liberate one another.
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That’s it for this week, lovely! I appreciate you offering me space in your day. And I look forward to seeing you fuck some shit up today! ❤️🔥
-xoxo-
Keli
P.S. I want to invite you to Project Reclamation, a private, equitable, self-coaching community, to explore the most expansive version of yourself. Inside, you’ll receive tools for nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and cognitive self-coaching. Plus, you’ll have access to Master Certified Coaches to receive written coaching as well as live coaching via group calls. And you’ll be able to join in on an integrated book club, as well as both virtual and in-person community celebrations.
Maybe life coaching has felt out of reach for you in the past, as it’s often relegated to those hoarding enough wealth to be bored. But self-discovery doesn’t actually come in Tiffany boxes, and it is my goal to make healing and growth accessible to everyone.
Inside this space, we’re committed to reclaiming our bodies, our time, our joy, and our lives from all the cultural conditioning that has left us feeling less than. And we’re doing it in a vibrant, supportive community that is truly open to everyone who shares these values. (Though cis-het white Christian men may struggle a bit.)
Registration is now open, so click the link to join. See you on the inside!
